500 Days of Summer... and You (continued)

On the second thought..., if I think again now,

Why didn't it work for me and him together?

Why I ended up being such a cruel person for him, while I never meant to be that?

Then if my biggest issue when I was with him was about a commitment and marriage issue, why not so long after I broke up with him, I met this person and I had no problem about the same idea?

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Well..., maybe it's only because we weren't meant to be together?

Because, there's another person we're destined to be with?

Tom: What happened? Why - why didn't they work out?
Summer: What always happens. Life.

Till then, dear

I hope one day you'll understand

500 Days of Summer... and You

I was spending my Saturday night, watching this movie again. And yes, somehow it brought me into a deep thinking and kinda guilty feeling...

Basically the film tells about a beautiful woman named Summer that doesn't believe that true love exists and a man that falls to her. Along the movie, they were getting closer... They spent their times together, holding hand, kissing, love making, and stuff. Though, she insisted on her words, they were only just friend. She didn't want to put a label on their relationship. And apparently it drove him crazy as time went by, but somehow, with her charm, she always could persuade him to understand.

Then long story short, at the end of the movie, she suddenly married with somebody else... leaving him alone with his feeling and memory about her.

Well, back then..., when I watched this film with my ex-bf, he said he liked this film. Why? Because it showed how bitch and cruel a woman can be.

And as I watched this movie again, I just couldn't help remembering it...

After all of these times, I think I ended up being perfectly Summer for him...

Playing around... Doing whatever I wanted... Using my charm to make him understand, because I knew he would do that for me...

Tom: Look, we don't have to put a label on it. That's fine. I get it. But, you know, I just... I need some consistency.
Summer: I know.
Tom: I need to know that you're not gonna wake up in the morning and feel differently.
Summer: And I can't give you that. Nobody can.

And at the end, I just used simply excuse like her

Summer: I woke up one morning and I just knew.
Tom: Knew what?
Summer: What I was never sure of with you.

While I guess... if he could, maybe he really wanted to tell me these

Tom: You know what sucks? That everything you believe in is complete and utter bullshit. It sucks.

Hufffff.... as I watched those film again, the memories recalled and I felt really guilty last night.

I thought about how Summer I was before for him...

I thought why it didn't work and why I ended up acting like that.

Maybe again, this Summer's quote was right...

Summer: You were right... It's just me you weren't right about

Yah... maybe it just me he wasn't right about.

A year I put him on hold with excuses that I didn't want to commit in a relationship. I made him wait and wait, while I was busy playing around with other people as well. Whenever he was about to give up and move on, I used my charm to persuade him to stay. It's been a year before finally he tired completely and gave me the ultimatum that this time he definitely would move on.

That time I was confused, I still wasn't sure about being in a relationship with him yet, but I was too afraid to be left behind. So I said yes...

I thought I made a right decision, but apparently I only postponed the problem for a while and made it worser at the end...

Hufffff... whenever I think again how sembarangan I was and how much I hurt him back then, hurt me as well.

So you, dear....

I'm so sorry for being such a bitch before. I never meant to

And wherever you are now, I wish you tons of happiness, more than when you were with me...

You were always right, whatever you believed in... about commitment, compromise with each other, and so on

It just me you weren't right about...

Hope you'll find your "Autumn" soon, because you deserve the best...

Sorry I couldn't be that one.

A Thing that Worth Fighting For

Beside a natural flirter, I'm also a natural fighter, apparently :)

Once I find something that worth fighting for, I won't stop until I get it.

No matter what it will take, no matter what it will cost.

I guess it applies in love, as well ;)

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Been knowing him for almost 2 years, but never really talked before.

Until one night after my #AussieTrip 3 months ago, casually I sent him an ordinary Happy Easter message, which somehow led us into a bbm chat for hours and hours.

We stopped only because we had to sleep, and later the next day, it continued...

Day by day.

I had nothing in mind, but I felt he was a good friend to talk about everything.

Can you imagine, we could talk randomly from life, spirituality, naughty things, sex, God and religion at the same time.

The conversation that night finally led us into a scheduled beer talk later one day.

A beer talk that worth each second :)

Since then, I felt closer to him... but never thought about the possibility of being more than friends.

I knew he had a fiancee already, and I just recovered from my broken heart phase.

I was too tired about starting a new story afterall.

Having a good friend to talk about everything was more than enough.

But, apparently somewhere in my deepest heart kept telling me

"hey, I think, he's for you, Sara."

Immediately I rejected that thought...

"for me? Are you kidding me? He already has a fiancee, tolol!"

I kept rejecting that idea even we were getting closer day by day...

Even I guess I got attracted to him already.

But as I listened to his story, I just couldn't help thinking,

"Is he happy with her? If he isn't, why should he wasted his time with a person that couldn't appreciate him well? while I guess, I could treat him better?"

Started from then, I questioned my heart, should I fight for it?

Should I put myself as a third person in someone's relationship again?

Blon kapok, Sar? :p

Shouldn't I be afraid about what other people think about me if they knew?

Shouldn't I tired being a secret in front of anyone else?

Shouldn't I tired to be put aside after somebody else's sake?

There were times I almost gave up completely...

Battling with my thought, my worries, and reality.

Then I thought and I told myself

Hey, doesn't a girl named Sara Lea Tunas never give up before she fight her best?

Hey, isn't it my right to fight and give him another option, while it's his right to refuse?

Hey, about what other people think, preketekkk... I never care about it since before anyway

Hey, maybe it'll hurt, but aren't I already get used with this kind of pain?

So yah... there I fought my best...

And surrendered...

What would be, let it be... I was only giving him an option...

But if at the end he chose the otherwise, what could I say...

There I would give up.

Seriously, I just wanted seeing him happy... That's all I wished for

He just deserve to be loved....

Along the way...

Sometimes it was hurt... Sometimes it numbed me from inside...

Sometimes I cried... Sometimes I considered about give up and walked away...

Sometimes I got angry with myself, why again I put myself into another mess like these?

But the very end I almost gave up, these little voice inside whispered me...

"Endure it a little more... just endure it a bit more"

"ya ollooooh, berjuang Sar! fiancee doaaang, janur kuning belon melengkung woyy. Masih ada kesempatan berjuang! Biasanya kamu udah no hope sama suami orang je" xD

"I guess, dia buat kamu kok, Sar..."

For a moment in time, Daniel Bedingfield's If You're Not The One was my soundtrack of life.

Hahahaha :))

"I don’t want to run away but I can’t take it, I don’t understand

If I’m not made for you then why does my heart tell me that I am?"

Yes, this might sound silly...

But somehow I knew I did the right thing to keep fighting

despite what other people might think :)

And I believed if it's fate, there would be a way.

If it's not, then I would just let go... as always, as before.

And long story short, after all of dramas along the way...

After tears and bleeding heart...

Here we are :)

Again, it's not a sweet fairy tale...

This just a story, about two people that already too tired of dramas and broken heated

About two people that really want to be together in a good way.

There's no such a happily ever after.

It was tough from the start, and there will be another tough times, I know.

But I've fought for it, and I'll keep fighting for it.

Because I know, he is one thing in life that worth fighting for :)

So Better Things Can Fall Together

Been quite a while not writing anything :)

And yes, since then I've been lost and falling down, then followed by accepting and letting go phase.

Accepting that if God took people away from my life, it should be for a MUCH BETTER reason.

At that point I surrendered and let everything go.

I went to #AussieTrip to collect all the pieces of feeling and memories and after then I knew I was done and done...

Funny thing, once I accepted and let everything go, all at once everything seemed getting better and better...

It made me understand, why all those dearest people had to walk away all of sudden from my life.

Because once I let them go, I just give someone better a chance to walk in.

And somehow, when he walked in, suddenly I see..., why things didn't work before with other people :)

Never felt this way before...

Matur nuwun Gusti Allah, boleh ini yang terakhir ya? :)